4 Steps To Get The Mindset Of The Top 5 Percent

success mindset

We are all guilty of it—wondering why not me?

Our coaching professionals have come up with four habits the prosperous exemplify. Below are a few things that top earners do—and equally as importantly—what they do not do.

1. Pick Up A Self-Improvement Book

Warren Buffett, the third richest man on the globe, has a goal to read 500 pages every single day. He understands that knowledge gained is power. The world’s most successful people attribute their success to their continuous need to learn more. So put down that remote and check out a book that will teach you something.

2. Focus On Getting Paid By Your Results

Results are the real currency of the world, not effort. It does not matter as much if you are the best at a job, if you are not contributing to the bigger picture or the bottom line. To stand out among your peers you have to keep your focus on your impact.

3. Don’t Be Frugal with Your Future

As a multi-millionaire consultant Dan Lok said, “You don’t have a saving problem, you have an income problem.” Start seeing your money as a tool, a resource that can be used to get you where you want to go. Additionally, remember not to focus on your lack of money, but the abundance of money all around you. Put your money to work! Invest in yourself and your future by hiring a career coach.

4. Surround Yourself with Achievers

Mark Ambrose once said, “Show me your friends and I’ll show you your future.” Who you spend the most time with is who you will become, so be intentional. Surround yourself with positive, supportive people who have achieved the goals you are setting for yourself. Develop friendships with those who know it can be done. Look around and make sure your community is focused on self-development, self-improvement, and accomplishing exciting goals.

Reflecting On Our Future: What Really Lies Ahead

We are living into an extraordinary decade ahead.

Are We On the Verge of Nuclear War with North Korea?
Famine In Somalia!
Protestors Pepper Sprayed By Police!
Syria: A Year of Horror!

News headlines such as these seem to shout out to us every day. But there is something important you need to know about your brain: the way it’s wired makes it natural for us to focus on the negative.

There’s an area of your brain called the amygdala, which plays a primary role in the processing of emotions and motivations…particularly those related to survival. And because of the way the amygdala functions, if we are presented with a dozen news stories, we will preferentially look at the adverse reports. Our mind pays attention to what is likely to be the biggest threat. Combine this with readily accessible sensational news and the result is a biased perspective; we tend to think the world around us is getting worse.

Peter Diamandis suggests that the sense that the world around us is degrading is in part a distortion caused by the amygdala. And while there are many great challenges and scary things happening in our human world…he uses this TED presentation to review some of our real human progress and to highlight the abundant possibilities.

Considering Dr. Peter Diamandis’s background, education, and track record, he is someone to listen to when reflecting on the future of our world. Recognized as a key figure in the development of the personal spaceflight industry, Dismandis is the Founder and Chairman of the X PRIZE Foundation, an educational non-profit prize institute whose mission is to create radical breakthroughs for the benefit of humanity. He is the co-founder and chairman of Singularity University which educates technology world changers in areas such as: AI, Robotics, Nanotechnology, Biotechnology, Medicine, Neuroscience, Networks and Computing Systems, Energy and Environmental Systems, and has earned numerous awards and notable achievements.

So following Diamandis, let’s take a look at human progress over the last 100 years:

  • The average human lifespan has doubled
  • The average per capita income has tripled
  • Childhood mortality has come down a factor of 10
  • We are living during the most peaceful time ever in human history
  • Global literacy has gone from 25% to 80%

We have redefined what poverty is in the United States. Today people who live under the poverty line still have electricity, running water, toilets, refrigerators, and televisions. Thanks to the widespread availability of affordable Gexa Energy plans and other electricity provisions, powering a property is significantly more affordable compared to the past. 88% have mobile phones. 70% have a car and air conditioning.

A huge part of this increase in our human advantages has to do with technology and Moore’s Law, which explains that any tool that becomes an information technology, experiences price and performance doubling every 12 to 24 months. That’s why the cell phone in your pocket is literally a million times cheaper and a thousand times faster and smaller than the supercomputers of the 70s.

Let me break this down further than Diamandis does in this TED video. Gordon Moore, the co-founder and former chairman of Intel, observed in 1965, that the power of computing devices was doubling every two years. Computer chips were becoming smaller and smaller and cost was dropping as a result. He predicted that this would go on indefinitely…nearly 45 years later this theory still holds. It’s an exponential equation (doubling every two years) that applies to all technology and that is why our world is ever changing, ever improving.

10 years ago, a computer that had the same performance of the smartphone in your pocket, would have cost $20,000.

Diamandis explains that if we objectively observe the world we really live in…abundance is inevitable. This abundance he speaks of is not about creating a life of luxury for everyone, but rather, creating a life of possibility.

Energy crisis? Yes we are currently in one. But we are on a planet that is bathed in 5,000 times more energy than we use in a year. 16 terawatts (a unit of power equal to a million megawatts) of energy hit the surface of the planet every 88 minutes from the Sun. It’s not that energy is scarce, instead our problem is about accessibility. The cost of solar generated electricity is 50% less than that of diesel electricity. The cost of solar (based on what the technology is costing us now) dropped 50% last year. MIT just published a study that showed that by the end of this decade, solar power will cost only six cents an hour, this will cause many households and families to switch over to solar energy providers similar to Sandbar Solar & Electric as well as the many others within the industry.

Next, if we have abundant energy, we also have abundant water. Our planet is blue because we live on a water planet. 70% covered in water. Today humans fight over only a half a percent of this water…because 97% of the water is salt water. But we already have access to technology that can solve this problem…Dean Kamen has invented a solution that creates clean water from any source (polluted water, salt water, etc.) This machine, called Slingshot, is about the size of a washer machine and while it’s not currently low in cost… according to Moore’s Law… it soon will be.

Advances such as these are happening in all areas of our world: health care, education, communication, the list goes on.

The biggest force for bringing about a world of abundance is our human population. We just passed the 7 billion mark on earth and we know that the biggest protection against a population explosion is making the world healthy and educated. From the year 2000 to 2011 there was a growth in internet use of 528%. In other words, it went from 350 million users to 2 and a ¼ billion users. Consider what all these different and new minds can bring to table to help solve our world’s problems. We are becoming more connected and this is a good thing.

What encourages us to be confident about the future is that more than ever before, the individual, each and everyone of us, can take on problem solving the challenges we face within our world. The case for optimism is built on the fact that we have the tools of our exponential technology, we have the passion of the DIY inventors, we have the capital of the techno philanthropists, and we have billions of new minds coming online to work with us to solve the grand challenges. We are living into an extraordinary decade ahead.

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You Can Create a Positive Ripple Effect

An inspiring talk by about an average person making a difference. May you find the courage and audacity to connect with and soften those around you. Now imagine taking it step further, and like Mary Anderson, making it a habit.

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How Might Our Lives Be More Fulfilling If We Took Imagination Seriously?

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Janet Echelman gives a great Ted talk. It conveys, if you read between the lines, the creative process. When it comes to creation, you have to let go all the time. You have to have ideas and then release them…allow them to play out and then cut them loose if they don’t belong within the creation. It becomes a beautiful dance.

Somehow Echelman’s stunning artwork itself conveys this same message about creativity. Imagine my delight when last week I got to see one of her pieces in the San Francisco airport. Her work truly shares with us the rediscovery of wonder.

How might each of our lives be more fulfilling if we take imagination seriously? What new thing might creativity bring to each day? One thing is for sure…creativity brings us into the present moment. It brings us into direct contact with the vibrant world around us. It helps us see in a new way. It brings us back to a more playful way of being. Consider an experiment, for the next week try out 8 Steps to Using Your Imagination. See what happens. Share it here.

Is It Time You Expanded? Find Out With this Dream-Like Exercise.

There are times when our conscious mind, our ego mind, can get in our way…bringing up resistance. Sometimes, this part of us defends against change in the status quo. In other words, this part can be invested in staying the same…not necessarily growing or thriving. A life coach or career coach can help you go around this, to get to what your deeper Self (some people call it “higher self“) really wants.

One way is to get into a more numinous state. Jung defined numinous as a heightened psychological state or as he would say “archetypal.” No need to get too complicated, it’s like the place we’re in when dreaming at night, where our psyche is more forefront and our critical, ego-mind is in the background, relaxing and not worrying too much about the details or logic of what’s going on. This post is a brief exercise I’ve created to bring about this deeper awareness. I invite you to relax, take a few deep breaths, tell your thinking mind it can take a little break, and allow yourself, if you choose, to float through your imagination. Here we go…

One night as you sleep, you have a dream. You are in your house having a small party with some old and new friends. Your house looks okay, but a bit unfinished. Unorganized stuff piled in a few places. Certain walls have no art or decoration. There’s a closet without a door. Some bare windows without curtains. Fine, acceptable, livable, approachable, but let’s just say, not a complete image of the abundant and nurtured (and nurturing) home. Then a woman, comfortable in her own skin, looking fit and wearing fine clothes, whom you haven’t met before, asks you if she may have a cup of tea. You bring her into your kitchen, preparing the tea, while you chat. You begin to realize that you feel connected to her, kindred spirits maybe; so you decide to show her around the rest of your home, the part that you don’t show to just anyone.

You walk from your kitchen into a corridor. From there you both glide into a part of the house, that you are at first, not aware was there… but it’s there you find yourself in a large mansion. Your large mansion. It’s as if “the dream you,” the person playing you in the dream, knows this place, but the “observer you,” the person watching the dream happen, is a little surprised. The dream goes on. You show your guest through many different, beautiful rooms. From the window you see a pool, later you show her an indoor pool and all sorts of other impressive rooms and spaces. The colors, the décor, everything is harmony. The house is vibrant, elegant, and expresses a sense of actualization.

As you awaken from your dream and find yourself reclined there in bed, nestled in your soft sheets, it occurs to you that you know that place, you’ve been there before in your dreams. Something deep inside you is resonating. You lay there thinking of the symbolic implications. Often in dreams, a house is a symbol of your whole self or your whole mind (conscious and unconscious.) In the dream, it seemed you were “living” in the more rundown or make-due part of the house and had almost forgotten that you had access to this whole other cultivated, nourished and developed residence. Sit with this image for a moment.

If a question moves you go with it…if it does not…let it fall to the wayside.
Are there areas of your life where you’re coasting, when you could access a whole other level of realization? Are there mad skills you have that are going unused? Are you blaming someone else or some other circumstances when it is actually you holding yourself back? What are some ways you can allow yourself to expand into your true self? When you were imaging the dream, what did it conjure for you?

Do You Have the Most Important Ingredient for Success? Don’t Worry, It’s Something You Can Learn

Have you noticed that people who are successful are not necessarily smarter or harder workers? I’ve observed this over and over. I have known pizza delivery people, bicycle couriers, used bookstore clerks, and more (all with degrees), who could intellectualize their “superiors” under the table, any day of the week. I’ve known people with incredible ideas and powerful minds, doing all sorts of hard jobs that do not pay a living wage (if a living wage means you can live on 60% of the income, saving and investing the rest for retirement and emergencies.) To be clear, I am not suggesting that making money is the only way to measure success. Obviously some people choose to work certain jobs because they want flexibility to pursue their passion, or they are living by a value system where money or material possessions isn’t the focus, or any number of other valid reasons. To be clear, however you measure success, it is not necessarily correlated to the characteristics you would think.

Part of the recipe of success is just suiting up and showing up. Some people think about doing things while others just do it. Some feel afraid of making the next move and allow this to hold them back; others feel the fear and step forward anyway, thinking of the fear as excitement or something along the path they learn to tolerate.

Inspirational author, Joachim de Posada, in this entertaining TED video, introduces another compelling ingredient for success. In several studies, four-year-old children were given a marshmallow and told they would be left alone for fifteen minutes, and if afterward the marshmallow was still intact, then they would be given a second marshmallow. Preschool-aged children and fifteen minutes alone with a sweet, tasty marshmallow. Needless to say, two out of three could not resist and ate the white, powdery treat almost immediately. One out of three was able to wait the whole time. What’s fascinating comes next…they did a follow up study of these same children fifteen years later and found that of those who did not eat the marshmallow, one-hundred-percent of them were successful. They had good grades, were doing well in school, had good relationships with the teachers, etc.

So what did those children have as part of their temperament that made them different? They had the ability to delay gratification. They were able to discipline themselves. They realized that waiting for something can increase the enjoyment…and the payoff.

One of the exciting things about having this information, is that we can change; we can use this to make our lives more successful. Of course shifting our patterns is not always simple and with any change we can expect to feel some resistance. Sometimes we do things to reward ourselves because an area of our life is hard. Maybe, for example, you don’t like your job and so you over-shop to reward yourself for dealing with it. But what if the “rewards” are part of what’s keeping you stuck? Regardless of what has happened in the past, regardless our inclinations, we can begin again. We can create new patterns. We can clear space for new growth and success. We can break it down into step by step plans of action. So where in your life would you like to see more success? Where could you use more self-discipline, long-term vision, and the ability to wait for it? What are some concrete steps you are willing to commit to right now? And how will you track it and keep yourself accountable?

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How Do You Grieve? And Why Bother?

Grief is challenging in part because it feels painful, complicated, and vulnerable. I mean, who out there, really wants to grieve? Some never do process grief and in avoiding it, carry it deep within the psyche…a heaviness hidden from the self. Some are experts in processing emotions and just do so, eventually moving along. A funeral can often act as a wonderful way to bring closure to the grieving process and to start celebrating the life of those who have passed. You can find a detailed break down here of services like cremation. Between these two points are every other way we steer our course through emotions, specifically grief. So how do you grieve? Does it just happen naturally? Do you have to make space for it, taking specific actions in order to feel the range of what comes up? For those of you familiar with the terrain of grief…please be our sherpa and tell us how you navigate.

While grief comes through in times when we have lost someone we love. It’s also an emotional experience that can accompany any type of loss or change. If you switch jobs, become a parent, finish your degree, retire, go from a stay-at-home parent to a working-outside-the-house parent, move out of state, and the list goes on, all of these experiences (even when they represent something positive) are a type of loss. Change is loss. Most people have grieved for someone they loved after they’ve passed away. And for some people, they must now start thinking about organising a funeral. If this is you and you don’t know where to start, then it may be in your best interests to contact https://riemannfamily.com/ who can help give them the perfect send-off. If you change the way you treat your body and your eating habits, you are losing the other way you have been living. Like that song goes, “Every new beginning comes from some other beginning’s end.”

I notice for myself, that sometimes I have “built in” aspects, created to “protect me,” that can keep me from going deep into emotion. So I have to make space to soften myself. I have to make sure that I’m not unconsciously escaping from my feelings through food, substances, shopping, socializing, over working, trying to control things in my life or trying to control others. I have to take really good care of myself with what I am eating, how I am sleeping, etc. I have to find ways to soothe myself and allow myself to become more introverted. And then slowly if I give myself space to reflect, journal, take baths, watch sad movies, listen to music…the emotions will come. This is how I invite my emotional self…because just like a tender, careful, shy child, my emotional self has had to slowly learn to trust me. In the past I hurt it through pushing it away, making it “buck up,” abusing it through harsh internal language, and simply ignoring it as if I didn’t have an emotional self.

So why go through this? Why bother taking the time to process our emotions or our grief? Especially since, if you’re like me, there are so many ways to go unconscious and avoid our soft sides. For some of us, if we don’t make this space, it will begin to take over, at worst, this is the core of the classic “nervous breakdown.” More mild versions are: break through emotions where we overreact to things (discharging unprocessed emotions at others) and depression (where our emotions turn against us or get stuck.) So one answer to why bother: this is how we avoid these small and large breakdowns. By making space for our emotional side, we can keep our emotional experience in it’s rightful, personal place…rather than unconsciously bringing them into our work lives or having them erupt without conscious intention. This is how we take care of ourselves. This is what healthy and balanced people do. Yet there is also another reason to make a conscious effort to meet our emotional self or process our emotions and grief. In doing so, our emotional side becomes our ally; (drum roll please) we actually become stronger and wiser. A metaphor for this is found in fairytales or mythology where the hero finally conquers the dragon and the dragon who was once a tyrant transforms into the hero’s right-hand companion for the rest of the journey.

When we become softer and allow our emotions to come through we become freer, and what is left, is stronger. Our emotions will then bring us many gifts including compassion, tenderness, and a sense that we are whole.