Happiness Exists in Giving the World What You Want the Most

I consider a presentation of value when at some point I become moved. It’s that emotional reaction when the topic works it’s way into my heart and suddenly everything is different. Sometimes I am teary, but more than that, I feel expanded and inspired to pass that feeling on.


Eve Ensler gives many things within this video. I loved the image she shared of being in Afghanistan and seeing women who have found a way to keep pleasure alive. Most of all I resonate with the idea that when we give to the world what we want the most we heal the broken part inside each of us. “Happiness exists in action, it exists in telling the truth and saying what your truth is, and it exists in giving the world what you want the most.”

What do you want the most? Healing. Love. Integrity. Discovery of undeveloped potential. Innocence. Time for being silly. Random acts of kindness. Passion. To be seen. To be heard. Nourishment. Health. Abundance. To enjoy what is simple and slow. Honor. Respect. How will you give it? Begin now.

You Won! You Made It Happen! Now Try on the Power of Visualization.

Feeling open to trying something? Use your imagination with me. Take a moment and let those words flow over you. See yourself at a convention, in a ballroom, with thousands of other people cheering this to you. You won! You were chosen! You achieved it! See in your mind’s eye how pleased they all are for you. Everyone is laughing and jumping up and down. All of these people beaming with happiness for you. Now stop, close your eyes, and sit with that visualization for as long as is comfortable before you read on.

Now answer these questions without thinking, just right off the top of your head: When you hear: You won! You achieved it! You did it! For you, what is “it”? What is one of your greatest dreams that you almost don’t dare to want? Your most compelling desire? It could be concrete and specific, like ‘I want my business to make x amount of profit in the next 10 years.’ Or it could be abstract, such as ‘I want to move past my childhood junk and grow into my fullest self.’ Your desire could be: knowing you are a great parent or experiencing consistent deep intimacy with your partner. Whatever it is…own it, know it, and say it out loud.

If you are being honest with yourself, this declaration should bring you energy. If you really want something, and you declare it, you can expect to have an enlivened reaction. This could be excitement, fear, or even a sense of being moved. If you aren’t having a reaction you may have chosen something that you, or someone else, think you “should” want. Or maybe you’ve chosen something that just isn’t IT. If this is the case, go back to the drawing board and keep searching for a truly potent dream.

Next question: What was your emotional reaction to imagining that level of support with all those people cheering for you? Did you feel happy? Relieved? Scared? Some other emotion?

Now take a minute and breathe through whatever came up for you. Notice how your body feels and continue to take deep breaths. When you’re ready, imagine the scenario all over again, the room with thousands of co-conspirators…and while breathing deeply…see them cheering for you…so excited that you made it happen. That you achieved this cherished dream. Let it sink in.

If you notice resistance, the kind that feels as though you don’t deserve this type support or even to “dream the impossible dream,” keep breathing deeply. Even if it feels a little cheesy to you, I invite you to “try on” this exercise like you would a costume. Even if it doesn’t feel true…imagine it. Allow yourself to fantasize about what you really want and then envision your self after having received it. Knowing that you did it.

As a bonus question you might ask yourself what changed? In your imagination, you’re on the other side of that goal, what had to change within you to make that dream happen?

Sometimes, without consciously meaning to, we shut off to certain things we want for ourselves. It’s a way of protecting ourselves from the pain of disappointment. Unfortunately, this also blocks us from our desire, our dreams, even some basic wants. You couple this with the fact that many of us worry about what might go wrong, rather than reviewing the ways it may go right, and you have a recipe for stagnation around the things that mean the most. Just for today, and any future day you choose, I invite you to instead, plan for the best. Allow yourself to remember these desires, these dreams, and just like an Olympic athlete in training, visualize yourself after you’ve crossed that finish line. Celebrate it. Take in that state of consciousness. This is your life….stretch to it if that’s what it takes.

Ready to Make Change Easier? To Be More Adaptable? Get Ready to Play!

Remember when you were a kid, you could make up a game and play it for hours? Remember how flexible you were? If another kid came up to you and launched a new game, you jumped right in, figuring it out…improvising.

Today I was watching two young boys play on the sidewalk. Suddenly one said, “I’m shutting myself off,” and as a robot, his expression went blank, his limbs froze, he powered down, just like that. The other boy transitioned smoothly into this new game. He began trying to figure out how to turn his friend back on – looking for the power button. He alternated between this and trying to distract his “robot” friend with jabs and faces. Why do we stop doing this? How much more fun and satisfying would your day be if you had this attitude? Are you ready for an experiment….Are you ready to play?

Walking through your day with an attitude of play is more than just fun, it helps us cope with change. It makes change easier. Aspects of our lives are moving and shifting around us each and every day. And while we are built to adapt to just about anything, we are also wired to be a bit resistant to change.

If we lived a few thousand years ago and knew we could survive, get food, sustain ourselves, right where we were currently living, and I said to you, “Hey, let’s move. Let’s go about 200 miles north. There might be more food there. It might be beautiful and even better than this life,” the natural reaction would be cynical resistance. You know you can survive here, but there in a new place, you might actually die. You might not find food. There could be predators. The thing is, we don’t live in that kind of world today. Most of us do not face life or death in our daily lives. We don’t need to live in survival mode (although for some of us, survival mode continues to be a tired, useless pattern), our environments have changed, but the brains we carry around are still the same. We have brains wired for caution.

It’s normal to feel a bit apprehensive when faced with the variations of life. To cope with this, to move forward, to flow, we have to learn how to “become comfortable with being uncomfortable” (as a friend shared recently.) We have to notice resistance and move forward anyway. And what better way to loosen up when faced with the stress of our day to day lives than to have an attitude of play?

Walking through life like you are ready to play requires you to be really present and on the lookout for fun. You could even say it’s all in how you look at it. Looking through the lens of play. When you’re a kid, invitations come in all forms and you dive at the opportunities when you see them. When you’re a kid this is how you have fun and this is how you learn. What changed?

What would it take for you to embody a more playful attitude? When was the last time you put on some music and sang and danced with yourself? How about watching funny clips on Youtube? Try to do a cartwheel. Take off your shoes and socks and walk in the grass/mud/sand. Make funny faces in the mirror. Leave a sweet and kind note in a public place for a stranger to find. Drive/walk to work a new way and look around for discoveries. As you walk through your day, consider strange but fun things such as, ‘If you had a can of spray paint in your favorite color, and you had permission, what would you spray for all to see?’

I encourage you to use your imagination. Can you think of a little game you can entice someone into? Or some other way to play? Like when you were young and invitations to play came in many packages. Look around and notice who’s asking you to play. Are you ready to say yes to the next invitation you receive?

Ignite Your Potential Blog!

This is an exciting time. It’s been my intention to create this space and now it’s finally here. This blog is for people who want to empower themselves by trying new things and learning more about who they really are. It’s for people who want to be inspired, who desire more personal freedom, and less pain, from old patterns that have, up until now, held them back. This blog will present questions, games, and ideas, to encourage awareness, presence, and make change easier. It is about consciously evolving…it is about discovering true potential…it’s about looking at your life in a new way…it’s about being in the here and now moment.

Potential? Here, potential is not who we are after working hard to achieve what our parents or society or the critics in our heads think we should be. This is not about Martha Stewartism. When I say potential, let it be as clear as a bell, I am referring to something inside of each of us. Unique to us.

Imagine when you were born there were seeds within you, ready to grow if given the right attention and nutrients. Over time, some things got in the way, patterns and habits were created, some seeds became long forgotten, some never discovered. The most beautiful thing about these seeds is that they are always there, until the day you die, they lie in wait, ready to offer you, and the world, their deep treasure. These seeds can hold the potential of any number of offerings; for example being: the most amazing listener, an asker of imaginative questions, a role model for a balanced healthy life, a loving and truly inspired parent or grandparent, a creative storyteller, a powerful and heart-centered CEO, a world traveler, a person who puts others in contact with their silly, playful side, a baby whisperer, a person turned on about life who shows others how to get that sparkle in their lives too, an admired communitarian, a solid friend who gives others permission to really be who they are, a pioneer in your neighborhood for green, sustainable living, and the list goes on and on.

This blog is a place to discover these seeds. It’s a place that will shift old patterns, increase your motivation, and nourish these deep places that hold the gold of our lives. I’m excited to share this journey together. If a post inspires you, please contribute to the community and share your experience.